Archive for the ‘HUH?’ Category

July 02, 2012
Filed Under (HUH?, You don't say...?) by svana

So, I was reading the blog of one of my favourite authors today, Ilona Andrews, and was shocked to discover author hate. Yes, readers hating on the author. WTF?

The first thing to know about Ilona is that the books are a joint effort between her and her husband, Gordon. Being a big fan of working with my husband it’s a delight to see another couple working together and still seemingly happily married and experiencing true partnership in their life. The blog posts, which are often short but telling, give an insight into a day-to-day life that you normally would not see. And that, to me, shows a tremendous amount of trust on the part of Ilona and Gordon. These two people are not “public property”. Sure, they write a couple of different series of books that have put them in the public eye, but this does not give the public ownership over them, or their characters.

As an example, the Kate Daniels series contains some reference to sex, but it is not integral to the story. It simply is. It is incorporated as part of the story to illustrate the strong chemistry between certain characters, but is not what the stories are about. This is actually a refreshing change from the recent trend of female hero fantasy stories. These marvelously strong female leads who must suddenly surrender to Harlequin-esque bodice ripping. I mean, really?

Just because you do not agree with the story device of either sex being used or sex not being used does not give you the right to attack the author(s). If you can’t state your difference of opinion in a grown up manner, or at least in a respectful manner, then do what your mama should have taught you: If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.

The sense of entitlement absolutely baffles me. Emailing, tweeting, commenting, or otherwise harrassing an author because you don’t like how their characters are turning out. This whole faceless, nameless air of unaccountability sucks.

When I read Ilona’s comment in Gordon’s post about Curran and the hot tub, telling people to be nice to her husband, or else, it elicited a heartfelt “woo and hoo” from behind my laptop screen, followed closely by, “what the fuck are people thinking?”

The Curran POV’s that Gordon writes are bonus material, brilliant bonus material. They provide the much desired Curran thought process from key scenes of the novels. (For those that have not read the books, they are written in the first-person, from Kate’s point of view, which is why the Curran POV’s are in such demand) They are the absolutely guilt-free treat that you crave, be it a chocolate cupcake, or triple fudge sundae with sprinkles, or whatever floats your boat. And they are so totally worth the read.

Suffice it to say, I know that in our very liberal, open-minded, talk-about-anything household our kid, who was reading Maria V. Snyder’s Poison Study series when she was 10 can safely pick up any one of the Kate Daniels novels and not have her synapses fried on pointless, mindless, story-filling sex. Everything that our daughter has read, one or both of us have read first. There have been a couple of times where we knew something was borderline, but we also knew that she would ask us about it. Sure enough, she did. And we sat down with her and talked about it.

In some of their blog posts, Ilona and Gordon have had to put their foot down and tell people to settle down with regards to sex (or lack thereof) in their books, and hating in general. I mean, really, what’s the point of writing an author to say “I hate your books, I wish you were dead.”? Seriously people? Don’t like it, don’t read it anymore. Same as TV: don’t like the show, change the channel.

Side note to Illona and Gordon: For every one person that says they’ll never buy another one of your books, I’ll be the one buying two copies. One electronic, one paper. Secondly, every person that I have introduced to the Kate Daniels series has become a rabid fan. And about 80% of those people are buying electronic and paper copies, too. So, I think we’ve got you covered here in Canada. ;)

At the end of the day, I think the internet’s zero accountability is largely to blame for these hateful behaviours. I’m not suggesting a Big Brother society, but people really do need to treat others with respect and courtesy whether it’s face-to-face, or miles away via electrons.

We touched on a few points here, so let’s summarize (in no particular order):

  1. Stop hating on authors. If you don’t like what they do, vote with your wallet and don’t buy or read any more of their books. If you think you can do better than them, step up to the plate and prove it. Otherwise, shut the hell up and keep your hate to yourself.
  2. I think it’s pretty obvious we’re fans of Ilona, Gordon, their books, and their partnership. I’m absolutely willing to let them babysit my 13-year-old in the form of a book, and that’s saying something, as I’m fussy about who watches over our kid.
  3. Fans/Readers have the right to their enjoyment of a book or series, but do not have the right to demand the author(s) write in a specific manner. Many times the characters have their own voice and will tell the author their story. A good author will write that story out, tidy it up a bit and send it out into the world. It’s not your story. They aren’t your characters. You’re along for the ride. As the bumper sticker says: Sit down. Strap in. Hang on, and shut the hell up!

At the end of the day my gateway drug to the world of Kate Daniels and the writing of Ilona Andrews was Magic Bites. By her own words, she felt the book wasn’t that good as it was their first, and they were inexperienced. I liken it to sake: after 3 cups you are hooked, giddy, intoxicated and have no choice but to go along for the ride. And the ride is totally worth it.



May 03, 2009
Filed Under (HUH?, You are really pissing me off) by svana

Last I heard, it was considered impolite to eavesdrop. Largely because you will hear things that are not intended for your ears or things that do not involve you. Simply put….don’t be a nosey bugger! This particular issue arises because a co-worker of mine stood outside my office door and listened to a telephone conversation. In and of itself, not a bad thing, as I was not gossipping about my fellow office mates but rather it involved a personal topic of spirituality. I work across the hall from some rather devout Baptists…and when their erstwhile leader hears me discussing topics of unconventional spirituality…it becomes a top priority to “save my immortal soul”.

Sheesh!

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February 07, 2009
Filed Under (HUH?, You are really pissing me off) by svana

I read a column in the Globe and Mail recently that left my jaw on the floor, and me speechless…which doesn’t happen often. When the inability to articulate hits me it’s usually followed by a very loud tirade filled with expletives. Funnily enough, it was the comments posted by the other readers that made me the most furious. Since everyone has an asshole and an opinion, I’ll toss my ass into the ring right along with my opinion.

The column was about a man who decided not to have a vasectomy, he chickened out. Normally this wouldn’t be a big issue, but he and his wife conceived after he was supposed to have had his vasectomy and have three kids already…hence the need for a vasectomy. After lying to his wife, knocking her up, looking at a termination of the pregnancy, living on a shoestring…he’s trying to figure out how to smooth things over.

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November 12, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?) by svana

There are days when I get a bug up my nose about things and just have to say a few quick words.

I did get bullied into this blog…and as life throws curves my way, I do try to keep at it. I get annoyed, however, when folks submit a comment that is an ad or just random keystrokes.

These folks find my odd wee space of the internet by Googling certain words, most notably, the word “bitch”. I’ve had comments that have included underage topless girl URLs, foreign language URLs and the aforementioned random, nonsensical keyboard junk. This leads me to my next tiny diatribe…

If you’d like to post a legitimate comment, please do so. This would include people who do not agree with what I write or how I write, as long as it has reasonably clean language and a point…comment away. I will not mark a disagreement as Spam. Feel free to recommend a link of interest or relevance, if it’s not a porn link or a scam, I’ll likely put it up. If you don’t want to comment, then don’t. I do not do this for anyone else but myself, and use it as a way to empty my brain for a short time.

So…long and short of the matter is this…comment if you like, or don’t…but please don’t waste my time with Spam-like comments. I get enough of it in my email.



October 17, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?, The Happy Sad Things) by svana

Lately, I haven’t been feeling much like myself.

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September 29, 2008

This post is for the ladies of The View.

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September 20, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?, Profoundly Disturbing) by svana

I’m not sure how to feel about social networking sites like MySpace and Facebook. About 7 months ago I came across the Megan Meier story, and my heart broke.

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August 25, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?) by svana

I’ll admit it…

I wound up calling my old friend after some lengthy ribbing in a chat program. Suffice it to say, I did gain something from from the conversation. I got a dose of perspective…funny how that works. I had always been of the opinion that her relationship with her family was quite good, but, it would seem that that was not the case.

I was amazed to learn that her adolescence was filled with the difficulties that I had, but I had never seen hers…but isn’t that how it goes? Suddenly, my perspective was vastly different that the one I had as a teenager or even as a revisiting adult. I guess that’s what maturity will do to you.

On the topic of maturity, for a moment…I will say this….

High School never really ends. It just becomes more subtle, but more ludicrous at the same time. One of the reasons I do not go into the past is because the people that I knew then, are the same people now…just older. Age can either eliminate some of those nasty personality traits or amplify them.

I view my brain as a filing cabinet, filled with files from all the years and times of my life. Occasionally, I will pull one out…and purge items so it takes up less space and makes room for the new. I prefer to live now, rather than reliving the good or bad from the past. Sometimes a visit to the file room is needed and necessary, but too much time spent there is counter productive.

So…as I review my newly found perspective, I will put the file containing that time into archive…and leave it there.



August 18, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?) by svana

The damnedest things make me laugh, and that is cause for concern with regards to my sanity some days. The pointy stick of email distance is working well for me, but I thought…perhaps mistakenly…that I would call my old friend.

LMAO – I needed that. Not the call, but the laugh.

You know, Canada411 is extremely useful tool. I looked up my contact from the past there, and wouldn’t you know it, there was her spouse! I debated for about 24 hours, and then picked up my cordless phone and called. A questioning voice answered, “Hello?”…I asked if this was “person XYZ?” I won’t put her name here, because I choose not to be petty or mean spirited…and what other people do with their blogs is their business, me I offer the right to name privacy. Suffice it to say, whoever answered the phone….HUNG UP.

Damn, I’m going to laugh again.

Ok, Ok…breathe…all better. After some lengthy emails over the last few days with this person, and some very deep questions posed of myself…and answered by myself. Asking for help from my friends and family for perspective, I took the plunge. Let me just say is was no more or less than I expected. It was what it was. What I find really amusing in all of this is…I don’t think she liked someone finding her contact information that easily. I am taking a rather perverse enjoyment of this situation. Karma will bite me on the arse for my enjoyment, of this I am certain, but it will be so worth it.

What I can say in the end is…

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for the laugh :D



August 15, 2008
Filed Under (HUH?) by svana

It’s funny how life works out sometimes.

I moved around a fair bit when I was younger, instead of being an army brat with all the glamorous locations like Germany or France…I was an Oil Patch kid…moving from one small oil town to another and usually there was a pump jack featured predominately in the town somewhere as a decoration.

It still makes my teeth clench.

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